Dear White Adopters who seek to delegitimize my voice as hateful spewing:
In case you forgot, I am an adult Adoptee who was once an adopted child who may not be any different from your daughters whom you love. This is our truth that we are inviting you to hear. As a target of this system of domination, I do not have the privilege to ignore you. Though you can easily dismiss, distort, and even adopt me.
I must beg this question: If you cannot hear me now, how could you parent me then?
Dear victim of reverse racism:
My first name is 똘똘이 (Smarty). I was born at 8 AM in Seoul, South Korea to my married Korean parents. I am now living in Korea and working alongside Adoptees and single mothers who are resisting a system of power that devastates first families and coerces parents into relinquishing their children. I was not an orphan until the system made me an orphan. When I write from this trauma, I am revealing our collective adoption community wounds.
Additionally, let me remind the haters that there is nothing you can do to me that you have not already done. You have taken my identity, my family, my home, and my culture of origin. You have subjected me to abuse and neglect, isolation, and the threat of violence and institutionalization as a pathological queer woman of color. You have taught me to see myself as fat, ugly, and stupid every time I look to see myself in the White adoptive family and community that was forced upon me. You did all of this to me before I learned your words, and before I knew my strength to resist this assault.
Do you still want to pick a fight with this community of grown Adoptees who started fighting these systems of domination as children and now are organizing globally to resist generations of violence?
I dare you. Bring us your ignorance, fears, and anger so that we can all blow up this love story into an issue that demands the attention of every person who believes in the sanctity of family in order to sustain our precious world.
And dare I threaten: The more children you adopt, the more adults we will have for our resistance movement. We know where you live. We are your family.